Is Emotional Openness the Key to Healthy Relationships?

My Soul 19.11.2014

Have you ever been at a social event, whether a hosted dinner, picnic, party, what-have-you, and you meet someone who is obviously intelligent, well educated, and successful? You fully expect an interesting conversation, yet it stumbles from the start. The conversation stays at a superficial level and, within a short time, you are actually struggling … Read More

3 Toxic Friendships to Swap Out for Your Health

My Soul 17.7.2015

Everyone needs friends. People with a large network of friends outlive those who don’t. Having friends may lower your risk of depression, increase your self-esteem, and provide you with the support you need to make it through life. But, some types of friendships could be doing more harm than good. Here are 3 types of … Read More

10 Signs That You’re In a Healthy Relationship

My Soul 6.7.2015

A goal in life for many of us is to be in happy and healthy relationship but most of us can also agree that accomplishing that is easier said than done. The media constantly feeds us the notion that romance and sex are the key components to a relationship—at least initially, we’re led to believe, … Read More

What to Say or Do When A Loved One Is Sick

My Soul 8.6.2015

Have you ever been sick and received a “Get Well” card from someone who cared about you? Remember how that made you feel? A kind gesture, thought or word can go a long way when your health is hurting. Here are several things you can do when the tables have turned and a loved one … Read More

Active Listening Is a Key to Great Interactions

My Soul 13.4.2015

Effective interactions with others require actively listening to what others say. Your ears hear the sounds and send them to your brain, but it’s your mind that makes sense of the noise. To really be a good listener, and to help your brain hear the whole message, try these action-oriented strategies to improve your listening. … Read More

How to Diagnose an Unhealthy Relationship

My Soul 4.2.2015

Once I ran to you, now I’ll run from you This tainted love you’ve given, I give you all a boy could give you Take my tears and that’s not nearly all Tainted love.   — “Tainted Love,” Ed Cobb, 1964 When someone says they’ve fallen in love with you, it can be hard to tell … Read More

5 Ways to Argue Appropriately

My Soul 23.1.2015

As with many things, learning how to argue properly with someone you love is a skill you can develop. There is a right way and a wrong way to do it. Many couples struggle with learning to fight fairly. Here are some ground rules: • The first one to get mad loses. You really can’t resolve anything … Read More

Transforming Criticism Into Connection

My Soul 2.1.2015

Why would anyone criticize someone else? Generally, there are two answers: To hurt someone’s feelings, or to change someone. If you want to criticize people to hurt their feelings, you need to do more than read a blog. But, if you want to learn how to use criticism to build closeness while changing the other … Read More

Compatibility: The Secret Ingredient to a Happy Relationship?

My Soul 14.1.2015

We likely all want our intimate relationships to be loving and long lasting. Don’t we? Then why are so many people so boneheaded about their choices in partners? Many seem unaware of the obvious predictors of relationship success and longevity? Somehow, too many people have the view that sexual chemistry, physical attraction, and love at … Read More

6 Ways to Manage the Differences in Your Relationship

My Soul 10.11.2014

Mary* loves romantic comedies. Her boyfriend Sam* likes action movies—the more violent, the better. She’s a vegetarian; he’s a carnivore. “I love him, but we seem totally mismatched,” she says. “We can’t agree on a movie or a meal; how can we make important life choices, like where we’ll live or when we’ll start a … Read More

How to Keep Tech from Taking Over Your Family

My Soul 15.6.2014

As a parent, it’s tempting to use the iPad or smartphone as a babysitter, but honestly, aren’t you just as mesmerized and absorbed with your own device sometimes (to the point of ignoring your kid)? With entire recovery centers set up to help adults deal with tech addiction, clearly, technology, particularly in the form of … Read More

The Generous Marriage

My Soul 10.6.2014

From tribesmen to billionaire philanthropists, the social value of generosity is already well known. But new research suggests it also matters much more intimately than we imagined, even down to our most personal relationships. Researchers from the University of Virginia’s National Marriage Project recently studied the role of generosity in the marriages of 2,870 men … Read More